10x signs of self-sacrifice

Self-sacrifice is a modern dilemma, that we have carried through from the ancient past.  It is a belief system that is reinforced by the beliefs that:

  • ‘we all have a cross to bear’
  • it is better to give in, to keep the peace
  • that we are being kind, and protecting others feelings, by allowing them to inconvenience us in some way.
  • that it is somehow a good and spiritual act to save the world, and compromise our own happiness, by being a martyr.

What if we were in fact giving our power away, to the detriment of ourselves, AND others, by continuing to self-sacrifice….. by continuing to be a martyr?  For every martyr, there is a manipulator.  If we freely give our energy away for the wrong reasons, there will always be an opportunist who takes it, and then wants more.  This is usually not a conscious state of being, and from the spiritual perspective, is borne from the desire to feel better about ourselves, and make others feel better about themselves.  It is our deep desire to ‘save the world’.  Indeed, it can be a startling fact to discover about your own behaviour, and that of others, however, once identified and transformed within yourself, you can be that greater, more authentic version of yourself.  This also allows others to transform and be a greater version of themselves too.

Here are 10 signs of self-sacrifice behaviours, and the negative effects they can have on us:

  1. You give up your personal dreams because your family or friends don’t agree with them.  Eventually, this erodes your sense of worth and purpose in life, causing underlying disappointment, depression, anxiety, and low self worth.
  2. You work hours of unpaid overtime every week, so your boss’s business runs more smoothly, or to keep up with your excessive workload.  You are overwhelmed, stressed, angry, bitter and become ill.  Eventually, you may suffer burn-out.  The more you give, the more they will take.
  3. You put up with being bullied or mis-treated at work, for your pay packet.  You feel hopeless, victimised, angry, and with low self worth.
  4. You put the material wants of your children first, so that they don’t feel they have less than the other kids at school.  You feel they will only love you if you give them the material stuff, or that others will judge you as a bad parent.  This teaches them that self worth comes from material things, and fails to acknowledge their inherent gifts, abilities and uniqueness.  Your love, time and wisdom are the most valuable things you can give them, and allows them to be independent and create things for themselves.
  5. You buy your kids material items or give them unhealthy foods, so that they don’t complain.  You feel powerless, and frustrated, and it may contribute to financial scarcity.  It teaches the child that they don’t need to respect others, and that others are to blame for how they feel.
  6. You run your business 7 days a week, believing that your constant availability will keep your clients loyal.  Is the customer always right?  Not if it means you cannot be authentic.  By doing what you love, and placing boundaries around that so YOU have balance in your life, you can make the greatest contribution.  The right customers will always show up, and respect you for who you are.  Invariably, when we produce a product or service that the customer says they want, the ones who asked for it don’t show up, and they don’t buy it.
  7. You pack your partner’s suitcase, because he/she might forget something, which will cause further problems. This is one of many examples where we do things for the other to avoid further work for ourselves. Are you mothering your partner, so he/she doesn’t have to grow up and take personal responsibility?  This can create bitterness, hatred, conflict and overwhelm.  Your partner holds this power in this situation, rather than you both being empowered, and enjoying the benefits of personal achievement, AND even partnership.
  8. You allow ‘friends’ to stay with you until they overstay their welcome, and you say nothing, even when it costs you money and prevents you from enjoying the home space you have created for yourself.  While you are considering their feelings by saying nothing, are these friends you really want?  You cannot be responsible for how others feel, when you honestly state the truth.  Again, they own your power and take your energy.  You feel bad, and they continue to consume your hospitality.
  9. You continually give time, energy or money to a charitable cause, to the detriment of your own lifestyle or wellbeing.  You feel overwhelmed, used and perhaps financially compromised.  Are you in fact paying the wages of the administrators, and the problem, the cause, is continuing without resolution?
  10. You worry about everyone else’s problems and illness.  You feel bad for them and take on their anxiety, complaints, and heartaches.  Does this help them feel better, or solve their problems? You can guide them but you cannot change their experience.  Do this enough, and you will become physically sick.

Attitude is everything

If you willingly, and happily do the above things without judgement, and they are a positive contribution to your sense of wellbeing, then keep doing them… you are not a martyr, and quite possibly a saint!

However, if you are a pushover, choosing to suffer at the hands of others, then it is time to regain your power.  And if you are someone who always looks to others to make you feel happy, important and powerful, then you also could benefit by learning how to use your own power, not others.

We already have what we are looking for.  Each of us has unlimited personal power, divine gifts and unlimited potential for personal happiness and achievement.  To access it, we need to commit to changing our beliefs, habits and clearing the ‘biology of our beliefs’ from our DNA, spiritual and otherwise.  It takes daily work, awareness and commitment, but is a worthy and fulfilling journey.

If you are ready to stop being a pushover, and start using you voice in a more authentic way, with assertiveness, rather than aggression, then the time is now.  This is the path to inner peace, and our inner peace, shapes the peace of the new world.  The purpose of life is joy…. are you ready to embrace yours?

ABOUT the AUTHOR

Helly Beks is a Forensic Healer, Soul Practitioner and former Self-Sacrificer.  She has beaten cancer twice (conventionally, and non-conventionally), and learned how adversity can be the road to personal authenticity, and personal freedom.  She wants you to value yourself enough and live large, because humanity needs your uniqueness.  This is the road to peace.  Helly believes ‘we are our own guru’, and by learning how to use our discernment, intuition, soul wisdom, and the Laws of the Universe, we build and create our personal prosperity.  Life is meant to be felt.  It’s time to reconnect with your soul.

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January Newsletter – Lay down new foundation

As I write this January newslettfullsizerender_3er, my temporary office at a cafe under beautiful oak trees seems to be the perfect location for this month’s theme!  I’m currently enjoying my third and final week of rest and rejuvenation in the alpine village of Bright, Victoria.  The clear, snow-fed Ovens River meanders through, the flow just prefect for tuning in to the earth elements.

The energy this month calls us to get grounded, to connect with nature, to appreciate and tune in to the life force energy, and cleansing powers of the magnetic field of Mother Earth, to feel aligned and balanced.

Then, from this place of being grounded, we can then ground our ideas into action and start laying the foundation for the next nine years.  2016 was a ‘9’ year, signifying completion of the last 9-year life cycle, and 2017 is a ‘1’ year – a beginning, and a laying of the foundation that you want for your life for the next 9 years.

FEEL and BREATHE IN the colour vibrations of nature…

  • the rich, lush greens – for physical healing and heart chakra balance
  • the earthy browns and reds of the soil – for base chakra balance and grounded presence
  • the bright rainbow colours of the native birds and flowers – to lift your spirits and invoke creativity, fun and inner child delight!

Crystals such as Tiger’s eye, Black Tourmaline, Carnelian, Jasper, Pyrite and red Calcite balance the lower chakras and assist you with grounding.

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UPCOMING Projects

While some of this year’s ‘peace’ projects are still in the planning and development stage, I can tell you about one.  The INNER GURU Prayers for Peace Group is a Facebook group that I am about to establish on Facebook.  Each month, I will be sending prayer, divine blessings and healing energy to everyone who joins the group (or already belongs).  You can also add another persons name as a Comment, or a place, for healing to go to that person/situation also.    Group members may also feel called to add their own prayer intentions for others in the Group, thus creating a matrix of prayer energy emanating and connecting from various parts of the globe!  What else is possible?!   Link to Group

FULL MOON Reminder

The first full moon of 2017 occurs this Thursday night (12/!).  Tune into the wisdom of the Heavenly Beings, as your intuitive communication channels are clearer over the next few days.  Take a moonlight ‘bath’,and pop your crystals out to be cleansed and energised by the moonlight rays.  Enjoy the connection!

Blessings

Helly Beks xx

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Crystal Oracle Guidance – Xmas Eve 2016 to end of Jan 2017

How do we make best use of planetary and cosmic energies that will be influencing our lives over the next five weeks until the end of January 2017?  What will we need to know, in order to go with the flow?!

The intelligent Crystal (mineral) Kingdom forms the DNA of the planet, so is very much part of the Universal Energy matrix.  I turned to the wisdom of the Crystal Angels and produced the following Crystal Oracle Reading, for all of us, for the next 5 weeks or so.

To select the crystals, I used the beautiful ‘Crystal Guardians’ oracle cards, by Michelle Kingston – Author and Artist www.divinelightcentre.com.au,, and added my own intuitive insights.

CHRISTMAS EVE and CHRISTMAS DAY
CARNELIAN – it’s all about the belly! carnelian
– let go of what you can no longer digest!
– be kind to your digestive system and liver over this period.  Drink plenty of water and add lemon to detoxify.
– have the courage to let go of past conflict with family members – be gentle, AND remain your power.  Wander off and disconnect from their energy when you need to!  Like the lion, laze under a shady tree if the atmosphere gets a little hot!
– let your creativity flow, and have fun!

 

NEW YEAR’S EVE 2016 and NEW YEAR’S DAY 2017
AQUAMARINE – relax and enjoy!
– float in a sea of inner peace and calm, as you celebrate your year’s hard work, and spend relaxation time with your loved ones.
– create space for YOU.  Detach from the outside world, and leave your mobile devices immobilised, and out of reach!
– sing, speak, write, draw, express yourself with clarity

JANUARY 2017 – WEEK #1
SUNSTONE – positivity and prosperity
– the Sun represents the Divine Source energy – the God force which has unlimited possibilities.
– Be open to receiving and noticing the various forms of abundance (spiritual and material) that rightfully come your way
– Keep your thoughts positive, passionate and prayerful about your potential for 2017, and use this first week of the year to set the scene for what’s to come!

JANUARY 2017 – WEEKS #2 and #3
TURQUOISE- communicate your truth

you are gaining new insights and ideas, as you channel your higher wisdom
– communicate your inner truth with clarity and confidence
– forge ahead with your new path, direction, project
– get out of the closet and live the true you!  Isn’t it about time?

 

JANUARY 2017 – WEEK #4 to 31/01/17
JASPER –  relationships improve

P1120025– grounding, nurturing, soothing Earth energies
– as you have become more confident and true to yourself, your light shines brighter, and your important relationships improve.  You are being the change you want to see in others!
– enhance your relationship with your inner being by connecting with Nature and feeling the natural flow of everything in creation

 

Have fun!

Blessings

Helly Beks
Crystal Therapist, Angel Intuitive, Forensic Healer, Spiritual Teacher
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Empathy – the Antidote to Anger

empathyI’ve noticed that many people are experiencing ANGER at the moment.  Old wounds that haven’t fully healed, are erupting, and coming to the fore.  Incidents that perhaps, we haven’t thought about for years.

 

Anger is an indicator that our thoughts/beliefs are out of alignment with our soul’s wisdom.  Anger also indicates a need to control a situation or outcome.

Anger, if buried, can lead to depression, and is often accompanied with feelings of low self worth, guilt, and dis-empowerment.  In Holistic Medicine, cancer is considered to be a disease based in anger.  Anger needs to expressed, but in a safe way that creates good vibes, not harmful ones.  If left buried, it can manifest as disease in our physical body.

How can we release anger in a responsible way?

1. Take some quiet time and space, to reflect on what is the source of the anger, and what triggers it?  Is it because you feel:
– you haven’t been heard?
– you haven’t been respected?
– you had a different point of view to someone else?
– you always want to be right, to feel empowered?
– you feel you need to control situations?
– you lost out in a situation and you feel like a fool?

2.  Work out who you are angry at.  Is it:
– another person?
– a group or company?
– yourself?
– the government?
– humanity?
– people you perceive as stupid?
– God?

3.  Take a paradigm shift and draw on your empathy.  Look at the situation from the other person’s perspective.  You must get to a place where you accept a few spiritual truths, based on Universal Laws, so you can let it go and move on:

– you cannot control the thoughts, emotions or actions of others.  You can only control your response to it.  If you are angry, that is a sign of defeat!  It is a sign that you have allowed the ‘other’ to control how YOU feel.   The angry person is the one who has lost self-control. Anger does not make you feel better, until you release it responsibly.

– anger has the power to lift you out of your depression, because it is further up the vibrational scale of emotions.  It gives you the energy to take positive action and shift your thinking.

– we are each a product of our history and life experiences.  No two people can have exactly the same point of view.  Allow others to have theirs, as you like to have yours!   Accept what you cannot change, and start asking the Universe what is the message in this for you?

– the attitude of others is a reflection of our own attitude.  What is being reflected back at you?  What is the vibrational frequency that you are putting out and attracting more of?

4.  Express the energy.  Get angry and get it all out!
– ALONE and IN PRIVATE, where the energy cannot negatively impact another person
– speak your mind, yell, write a letter, create a drawing or create some music.
– clean up the expressed energy by cleansing your aura and your space with incense, or Tibetan bells.  Burn the letter to cleanse the energy.

5.  Cleanse and relax your energy field with meditation, music, a massage, yoga session.

6.  Work daily to focus on allowance of all points of view, and look for the commonalities you have with others, rather than the differences.

7.  Forgive yourself, let go of your guilt.  Connect with your inner being, and choose to get happy now!

Helly Beks
Energy Medicine Practitioner, Forensic Healer, Angel Intuitive
Founder – Heavenly Earth Projects

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If you need help to clear your past so you can move on, I can assist you.

Are you ready to feel LIGHTER, BRIGHTER and more FREE? Are you ready to re-connect with your INNER GURU – and trust your intuition?

Whether it be our upcoming workshops or a SKYPE session, I can assist you with Forensic Healing and Intuitive guidance to help you get to where you want to be.

Experience clarity, direction, and the soul-trust and soul-reconnection process, with my bespoke sessions.

Sharing some feedback from a recent EMPATH workshop:

“Just wanted to say a big thank you for your guidance and teachings today, Tappreciate it so much. I truly feel it added to my growth as a person and will help me on my journey. Your work is amazing and I hope to see you around in the future. I’m genuinely grateful. Looking forward to your future workshops…wherever they are! I’m extremely hungry for this growth. Xx” Alicia P.

And more feedback from a client after a bespoke Healing and Guidance session.  The intention for the session was for her to ‘feel peaceful, and more open to Spirit’, and comprised various energy re-clearings, and a Spiritual Awakening healing:

“I feel amazing. All my senses are amplified and my heart space is really warm. Thank you so much. Xo” – Nikki R.

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Pain Release Workshop for EMPATHS

Sunday, 2 October 1:30 pm to 4pm
CERES Community Environment Park
Brunswick East, Melbourne
$55

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Are you an EMPATH who suffers from chronic or mystery pain? Do you take on other people’s stuff? If so, this pain relief workshop is for YOU!

De-stress here!!!

We combine INTUITIVE INSIGHT, and the SCIENCE of METAPHYSICS, to investigate, and address your pain at the SOURCE.

^^^ You will receive personal, one-on-one attention from me, as we investigate and release the stuff that’s not yours, (using powerful, metaphysical, energy healing techniques, via Universal Healing Energies).

^^^ You will also have the opportunity to learn and experience more about this Empath symptom, from the others in this small, group healing session.

^^^ You will learn a specialised clearing protocol, to help you remain empathic, but not a martyr, in the future!

HOW DID THIS WORKSHOP COME ABOUT?

I recently realised that about 99% of EMPATHS carry physical pain in their body! YIKES!!! That’s no fun! It’s the sort of pain that is there most of the time, but we soldier on, putting up with it, as it becomes a perplexing, and debilitating part of our everyday experience. Or it’s the sort of pain that hits us suddenly, like a bolt out of blue. It’s the sort of pain that only responds temporarily, (or not at all) to massage therapy, chiropractor treatment, or other remedies.

* Back pain
* Chest pain (front or rear)
* Sudden onset of asthma symptoms/coughing
* Sudden sharp, stabbing pain in body
* Digestive issues/belly pain
* Neck/shoulder pain

In our recent EMPATH Wellness Workshop, EVERYONE had pain! However, after doing a particular energy clearing exercise, most of the pain had completely gone from their bodies. WHY? Because most of it wasn’t theirs. They had taken it on from someone else. This is a classic symptom of EMPATH SENSITIVITY.

After the workshop I figured that there must be many more EMPATHS out there who need URGENT PAIN RELIEF! So I’ve created the EMPATH PAIN RELIEF Workshop, which is a group healing and teaching session. This is leading-edge, metaphysical energy healing, for your mind, body and soul.

The source of all, is Spirit. When we only treat the physical symptoms, we are not treating the mind and soul aspects, which carry the underlying imbalance.

In this fascinating session, we get to the SOURCE of the actual energy, and send it packing!

The intention is that YOU GO HOME, FREE OF EVERYONE ELSE’S STUFF! How can it get better than that? You will feel LIGHTER, BRIGHTER and more FREE!

These sessions are limited to 8 PLACES only. You MUST PRE-REGISTER online, to SECURE your PLACE!

NOTE: I do not diagnose conditions, or guarantee results. Energy Healing protocols are a holistic approach and COMPLEMENT, but do not replace conventional medical treatment. Always see your GP if you are concerned about your health.

Blessings

Helly Beks xx

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Wellness Workshop for Empaths

Wellness Workshop for EMPATHS

Sunday, September 11, 2016   1:30 pm to 5 pm

in Brunswick East, Melbourne

To register and purchase tickets, click here https://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/self-care-workshop-for-empaths-tickets-26503013226

Are you highly sensitive to the energies of other people? Does it affect your sense of well-being? Those who have this gift of intuitive awareness and open-ness are often referred to EMPATHS.

It is likely that you work in service to others, in an office or perhaps as a nurse, healer, natural therapist, animal carer, care-giver or administrator to others who are ill or elderly, or require assistance. It is also likely that you feel sudden mood swings, sudden onset of pain, or illness which conventional medicine cannot find the source of. It is possible that you have an addictive personality and engage in drinking, smoking, eating or shopping in an effort to shield the negative vibes to try and feel better about your life. Are you ready to feel better, more empowered about your life?

Help is at hand!

In this unique, life-changing and expansive workshop, you will:

* learn what it means to live with this special gift
* learn how to perceive it as lightness, rather than heaviness
* understand how it forms part of your unique contribution to the well-being of humanity – your life purpose
* receive Source energy and insight to clear away old beliefs and set you on a path of positive, empowered living
* learn how to ‘be your own guru’ and manage your emotional well-being with conscious creation and mastery of thought
* learn the 7 keys to manifesting wellness and happiness for yourself, everyday, regardless of what’s going on around you
* learn how to be the greatness you came here to be, by simply being happy and connected to your soul wisdom!

Hosted by Helly Beks – Empath, Energy Practitioner, Teacher, and Founder of Heavenly Earth Projects. Helly’s joy and purpose is to teach YOU what she has discovered for herself, so you can live with the comfort, joy and abundance of living authentically from your own soul wisdom.

Are you ready to PLAY and have some FUN?!

To purchase tickets, click here https://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/self-care-workshop-for-empaths-tickets-26503013226

About the venue:

The Ceres Community Environment Park is an oasis in Brunswick East.

The workshop itself is located in the Van Raay Centre classrooms (Room 3) which are onsite. Surrounded by simple, organic farming practices, free-range hens, an arts and crafts shop and information centre, organic shop and cafe, this is a perfect environment to de-stress and soak up the vibes of clean, environmentally friendly energy – heaven for EMPATHS!

Limited parking is available onsite, and more parking is available in the overflow carpark 50 metres up the street. Or you can take the tram or bus there.

I invite you to arrive early and allow time to explore the facilities, have an organic coffee or browse the shops.

You can find out more by visiting their website http://ceres.org.au/

A tea break will be provided during the workshop, and I also recommend you bring your water bottle so you can stay hydrated throughout!

I look forward to seeing you.

Blessings

Helly Beks xx

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