10x signs of self-sacrifice

Self-sacrifice is a modern dilemma, that we have carried through from the ancient past.  It is a belief system that is reinforced by the beliefs that:

  • ‘we all have a cross to bear’
  • it is better to give in, to keep the peace
  • that we are being kind, and protecting others feelings, by allowing them to inconvenience us in some way.
  • that it is somehow a good and spiritual act to save the world, and compromise our own happiness, by being a martyr.

What if we were in fact giving our power away, to the detriment of ourselves, AND others, by continuing to self-sacrifice….. by continuing to be a martyr?  For every martyr, there is a manipulator.  If we freely give our energy away for the wrong reasons, there will always be an opportunist who takes it, and then wants more.  This is usually not a conscious state of being, and from the spiritual perspective, is borne from the desire to feel better about ourselves, and make others feel better about themselves.  It is our deep desire to ‘save the world’.  Indeed, it can be a startling fact to discover about your own behaviour, and that of others, however, once identified and transformed within yourself, you can be that greater, more authentic version of yourself.  This also allows others to transform and be a greater version of themselves too.

Here are 10 signs of self-sacrifice behaviours, and the negative effects they can have on us:

  1. You give up your personal dreams because your family or friends don’t agree with them.  Eventually, this erodes your sense of worth and purpose in life, causing underlying disappointment, depression, anxiety, and low self worth.
  2. You work hours of unpaid overtime every week, so your boss’s business runs more smoothly, or to keep up with your excessive workload.  You are overwhelmed, stressed, angry, bitter and become ill.  Eventually, you may suffer burn-out.  The more you give, the more they will take.
  3. You put up with being bullied or mis-treated at work, for your pay packet.  You feel hopeless, victimised, angry, and with low self worth.
  4. You put the material wants of your children first, so that they don’t feel they have less than the other kids at school.  You feel they will only love you if you give them the material stuff, or that others will judge you as a bad parent.  This teaches them that self worth comes from material things, and fails to acknowledge their inherent gifts, abilities and uniqueness.  Your love, time and wisdom are the most valuable things you can give them, and allows them to be independent and create things for themselves.
  5. You buy your kids material items or give them unhealthy foods, so that they don’t complain.  You feel powerless, and frustrated, and it may contribute to financial scarcity.  It teaches the child that they don’t need to respect others, and that others are to blame for how they feel.
  6. You run your business 7 days a week, believing that your constant availability will keep your clients loyal.  Is the customer always right?  Not if it means you cannot be authentic.  By doing what you love, and placing boundaries around that so YOU have balance in your life, you can make the greatest contribution.  The right customers will always show up, and respect you for who you are.  Invariably, when we produce a product or service that the customer says they want, the ones who asked for it don’t show up, and they don’t buy it.
  7. You pack your partner’s suitcase, because he/she might forget something, which will cause further problems. This is one of many examples where we do things for the other to avoid further work for ourselves. Are you mothering your partner, so he/she doesn’t have to grow up and take personal responsibility?  This can create bitterness, hatred, conflict and overwhelm.  Your partner holds this power in this situation, rather than you both being empowered, and enjoying the benefits of personal achievement, AND even partnership.
  8. You allow ‘friends’ to stay with you until they overstay their welcome, and you say nothing, even when it costs you money and prevents you from enjoying the home space you have created for yourself.  While you are considering their feelings by saying nothing, are these friends you really want?  You cannot be responsible for how others feel, when you honestly state the truth.  Again, they own your power and take your energy.  You feel bad, and they continue to consume your hospitality.
  9. You continually give time, energy or money to a charitable cause, to the detriment of your own lifestyle or wellbeing.  You feel overwhelmed, used and perhaps financially compromised.  Are you in fact paying the wages of the administrators, and the problem, the cause, is continuing without resolution?
  10. You worry about everyone else’s problems and illness.  You feel bad for them and take on their anxiety, complaints, and heartaches.  Does this help them feel better, or solve their problems? You can guide them but you cannot change their experience.  Do this enough, and you will become physically sick.

Attitude is everything

If you willingly, and happily do the above things without judgement, and they are a positive contribution to your sense of wellbeing, then keep doing them… you are not a martyr, and quite possibly a saint!

However, if you are a pushover, choosing to suffer at the hands of others, then it is time to regain your power.  And if you are someone who always looks to others to make you feel happy, important and powerful, then you also could benefit by learning how to use your own power, not others.

We already have what we are looking for.  Each of us has unlimited personal power, divine gifts and unlimited potential for personal happiness and achievement.  To access it, we need to commit to changing our beliefs, habits and clearing the ‘biology of our beliefs’ from our DNA, spiritual and otherwise.  It takes daily work, awareness and commitment, but is a worthy and fulfilling journey.

If you are ready to stop being a pushover, and start using you voice in a more authentic way, with assertiveness, rather than aggression, then the time is now.  This is the path to inner peace, and our inner peace, shapes the peace of the new world.  The purpose of life is joy…. are you ready to embrace yours?

ABOUT the AUTHOR

Helly Beks is a Forensic Healer, Soul Practitioner and former Self-Sacrificer.  She has beaten cancer twice (conventionally, and non-conventionally), and learned how adversity can be the road to personal authenticity, and personal freedom.  She wants you to value yourself enough and live large, because humanity needs your uniqueness.  This is the road to peace.  Helly believes ‘we are our own guru’, and by learning how to use our discernment, intuition, soul wisdom, and the Laws of the Universe, we build and create our personal prosperity.  Life is meant to be felt.  It’s time to reconnect with your soul.

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The journey of grief – 11 ways to heal

Grief is an emotion that can weigh heavily upon our heart and mind.  Its ongoing affect can be debilitating and block our sense of happiness and hope for the future.  It reflects our sense of loss for what was, or what might have been.

 

Grief can result from:

  • loss of a loved one (human or animal)
  • breakdown of a relationship, or family unit
  • loss of our identity due to motherhood
  • loss of connection with our country of origin
  • loss of health, or even
  • loss of our dreams for our future, or the future of humanity.

When we have a vested interest in a person, a belief, a dream, or situation, we can feel shattered, when it changes or departs:

  • the love/positive energy has no where to go, yet the momentum of the love energy continues, and we tend to hold it inside.
  • the trauma/shock of the loss causes facets of our soul to become disconnected, and, in some cases, we can feel as though something inside us has died.

11 ways to heal grief:

  • Cry – allow yourself the quiet time and space you need.  Crying allows you to release the energy.  Focus on letting go as you cry.  Be kind to yourself and nurture yourself with extra comfort and love.
  • Focus on the positive aspects of what you had, rather than what you have lost.  Talk about the good memories, and how they have contributed to who you are today.
  • If you have lost a loved one, look for a way that you can channel your ‘excess love’ into something meaningful and relevant to you, moving forward.  Do it in their name or memory.
  • Know that it will get better, and that you will feel better in time.  Give yourself, and others, the space, grace, compassion, and love that you need to walk your path of grief.
  • If your loved one has passed (human or animal), know that they are still with you in the higher dimensions. When you think of them, they feel that ‘callout’.  Look out for signs from them such as feathers, a special song on the radio, a feeling of warmth or sense that they are hugging you.  Animals, in particular, stay loyal to you when they have passed over, in my professional experience as a Psychic Medium.
  • Express your thoughts or unspoken words by journalling, or speaking to your loved one from your heart.   They DO hear you.
  • Use crystals such as rose quartz, or apache tears, to help heal your grief.  They are particularly effective when you are sleeping.  Place them on your bedside table, under your pillow, taped to your chest, or hold in your hand as a comforter.
  • Have faith that your loved one is safe.  Ask God or Divine Beings (such as Mother Mary, Archangel Azrael – the grief counsellor) to work with you to heal your grief, so that you can feel better.
  • Refer to a Spiritual Healer for a Soul Reconnection Healing, to retrieve the facets of your soul which you have ‘lost’, so that your feel more whole, and more able to continue on in your life.
  • Know that you will be reunited with your loved ones one day, in glorious fullness.
  • See a professional grief counsellor.

Sending you much love,

Helly Beks (FHS)
Forensic Healer, Spiritual Mentor and Angel Intuitive.

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The Five Rs of December – a spiritual status check

Complete your 2016 year with a spiritual status check!

img_2967The month of December is a time to:

REVIEW your year
RECONNECT with your soul
REJOICE in your wins
RELAX your mind, and
RECEIVE your abundance.

As we draw near to the completion of the year of 2016, it’s a good time to ask, “What are the good bits I can carry with me from this year?  And, have I let go of the stuff I want to leave behind?”

I call this a Spiritual Status Check, and you can use this spiritual tool if you want to start next year with more clarity, direction and purpose.

REVIEW
Take some undisturbed, quiet time to centre yourself and review where you were in various aspects of your life at the start of the year, in relation to where you are now.  Notice your greater maturity, your achievements, your knowledge, wisdom and strengths.  How has your confidence and personal authenticity grown?  Note down the things that you still want to let go of, or the inexplicable blocks that you feel are holding you back.  Work with clearing this list yourself, or consider the effectiveness of seeing a Healer.

RECONNECT
Take quiet time to reconnect more with your heart and soul.  What is your purpose?  What are your heart’s desires.  What do you wish to create for 2017?  What plans and changes are you considering, to make 2017 more satisfying and rewarding to you?

REJOICE!
Congratulate yourself for all your achievements, tiny and big, this year.  Make a list of them and show it to someone who loves and appreciates you.  Realise that you are capable of more than you thought!  Reward yourself with a gift or special treat.

RELAX
Relax your mind, and go with the flow….. even if your body has to be physically busy!  Think less, and trust your intuition more.  Relax your mind, and your emotions will be calmer and your body filled with more ease. In this non-resistant state, you are in ‘receiving mode’.

RECEIVE
Stay connected with your Source, and receive the abundance you have been working towards.  Use this relaxed space to receive inner peace, guidance and clarity about your purpose, next steps, goals and intentions for the New Year – the start of a NEW CYCLE!

Prepare to launch year 2017 with fresh energy, confidence and gusto, and make it easier to keep the momentum going.

If you need help to clear blocks, or reconnect more at soul level, I can help you with personal Forensic Healing sessions via SKYPE or in person. For enquiries and appointments, please call me on 0403 018728, or email me at hellybeks@icloud.com.  I would be happy to assist and guide you further.

by Helly Beks
Founder – Heavenly Earth Projects

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Helly Beks (Dip. FHS) is a Forensic Healer, Spiritual Teacher and Angel Intuitive.  She helps people to identify blocks to their personal expansion and prosperity.  Helly specialises in spiritual healings, soul reconnection, and investigating and clearing mystery or chronic pain.  Helly believes that we are our own guru – and teaches people how to trust and hear their own inner wisdom – their Divine connection with Source Energy.

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